Things that Annoy Me About the Interviewing Process

Here are some things that annoy me about the interviewing process:

Asking for your expected rate of pay when the pay rate is already clearly stated in the job description, instead of saying, “So is $x/hour okay with you?”

Rescheduling interviews or not showing up for an interview — this makes them seem disorganized and rude, and a job candidate would never get away with it.

Asking my current salary — this should have nothing to do with how much they will pay me for the new position, including the new duties I will take on and the experience I will be bringing with me. Also, it further hurts those who have crappy employers who never give raises. I’m glad to see some states have outlawed this practice, and I hope it spreads.

Not knowing whether to say I want to move up or not — some employers see ambition in a low-level employee as threatening. They worry you will want their job or will not be content in the entry-level role for which they hire you. Other employers want to hear that you are looking to stay with the company and are excited about promotions.

Asking you why you want to leave current position or why you’ve left a past position— This is yet another possible minefield. Many people leave bad bosses/managers, not necessarily bad jobs. You’re never supposed to speak negatively about a former boss, so it’s basically backing you into a corner where you’re forced to lie.

Not telling me the next steps — It’s not fun to have to guess whether they are still interested in you or how many more interviews they will be in the hiring process. You might have gotten offers from other employers in the meantime and don’t know how much time you have to make a decision.

What are some issues that annoy you about the interviewing process or job searching, in general?

Privilege and Being Candid

I’ve been thinking a lot about the privilege you must have to be open and honest with your thoughts in this society. My privilege allows me to say things I otherwise wouldn’t. For example, I don’t have children to think about, and I have financial support from my family. Because of that support, I feel more comfortable taking risks at my job and speaking up when I feel something is not right or when I need to defend myself. Not having any kind of social safety net, especially with children depending on me, allows me more leeway. I think of people who stay in the same miserable job for years, even decades, and do not extricate themselves due to it being too risky. The fear of the unknown, for them, is greater than the fear of wasting their lives in misery. What are your thoughts?

Working from Home

Has anyone else decided they’re basically refusing to return to an office to do work that can easily be done at home? I currently work at home due to Covid, but they’re talking about bringing us back into the site this summer. We have all successfully been working at home since March/April 2020, and it’s patently obvious now that a job site is not needed for this type of work. I have recently been applying to only permanently-remote positions. I really hope that one positive thing to come out of Covid is employers feeling intense pressure to offer remote jobs in situations where the kind of work done can easily be done remotely. There are so many perks to working from home, and I must say I feel it’s spiteful to require us to return to the site just because it’s traditionally been done that way, especially when the higher-ups making these decisions probably get to do most of their work from home, anyway. I’ve also noticed that the people saying they want to return talk about being lonely and wanting the opportunity to socialize. I feel like they should be the only ones who return, not those of us who are thriving and doing a good job working from home and do not see our jobs as necessary to meet our socialization and emotional needs.

How to Deal With Bossy Coworkers

Has anyone had the experience of having a coworker that acts like a supervisor? Someone who tells you what you’re doing wrong, what you should be doing, tries to bully you into doing things more like they do them, etc? I have had someone like this at every job I’ve worked (excluding the positions I’ve worked where I didn’t have coworkers). Shout out to Sandy, Shanda, Summer, and Nicole! It can be maddening to have people attempt to direct you when they are in no position to do so. And considering most people work at least 40 hours a week, it can really have a negative impact on your life. However, I have found some productive ways to diffuse these situations.

Ignore them. They are not your supervisor, and so you do not owe them an answer of explanation for the way you do things. Be civil, but do not respond when they are attempting to put you on the defensive, criticize you, or change your work style.

Assess yourself honestly and consider if you’re in the wrong. Maybe you do need to change something regarding your job performance or the way you interact with others at work. Maybe you are being inconsiderate or violating work policies. Perhaps they are confronting you about it, giving you the chance to improve, before going to a supervisor because they don’t want you getting in trouble. Ask them to give specific examples of what they believe you’re doing wrong. They might have some merit. If they can’t give examples, you’ve called their bluff.

Keep your cool. By responding angrily, you will be the one who appears at fault, even if their stance has no merit. Don’t take the bait. Always take the high road.

Tell them to go to your supervisor. If you are doing nothing wrong and they continue to harass you, suggest they do not contact you anymore but instead go to your supervisor. If you are not in the wrong, their going to your supervisor will only make them look petty, foolish, jealous, and difficult.

I think there are different reasons for this type of bossy behavior. Some people are arrogant and believe they know more than you do. Some people are insecure and are going on the attack because it feels better than being on the defense. Some people are attempting to get the attention of the boss because they want to be promoted. Does anybody have other tips or tricks that have proven effective in dealing with a bossy coworker? If so, please share!

Accents and Attitudes

Recently I’ve been noticing how accents and attitudes are similar in that, the more you’re around them, the more likely you are to adopt them, yourself. If I am around people at work who speak a certain way, use a certain kind of slang or colloquialisms, I find myself using them when I’m away from work, unintentionally. I also find the same concept applies to attitudes. When I’m surrounded by people with positive, optimistic attitudes, I tend to take on those same feelings. Likewise, when I am around negative, pessimistic people, I feel discontent and dread the unknown and new, myself. It’s easier to surround yourself with positive people when not at work, but you can’t control who your coworkers are. Spending eight hours a day around people who bring you down can be the recipe for a miserable time. I have just started a new job where the training period is very long and the work takes a while to learn and master. I’ve made it through the first week but the next several weeks is when we really get into the meat of the job duties and put them into practice. I’ve made the commitment to be as positive an influence as possible. This will not only hopefully put those around me in a positive state of mind, but will put me in the frame of mind to learn and absorb rapidly and to expect success, not failure! The difference is palpable when I interact with fellow trainees and other coworkers who are positive, helpful, pleasant people. I feel calm, optimistic, and self-assured. On the contrary, interacting with negative, sour, unpleasant coworkers makes me feel negative and unsure of myself. I don’t want to set myself up for a self-fulfilling prophecy, where I tell myself I can’t, so I can’t. I want to use the law of attraction to manifest greatness so that I can be great!