Your Life Purpose Might Not Be a Paying One

Something I try to remember is that my life purpose/calling might not be a paying venture. And when I say life purpose, I don’t mean the societally-created purpose you’re supposed to find for yourself, the hidden reason you’re on the earth (that coincidentally is always financially profitable), the one you’re supposed to spend your teenage years/ young adulthood searching for if you ever want fulfillment or satisfaction (or a consistent roof over your head). No, I’m talking the purpose you create for yourself based on your intimate self-knowledge, self-love, and self-understanding. I’m learning what excites, motivates, and stirs me might not pay me. What I’m the best at, where my strengths and abilities lie, might not be considered marketable, and therefore won’t pay me. I’m learning the millennia-old spark that magnifies purpose and belonging in each person’s heart is completely separate from the few-hundred-years’ old concept of capitalism. So if what I do for pay doesn’t necessarily speak to who I am, it’s all right. It’s not meant to speak to who I am or reflect who I am. Its purpose is much more humble.

How to Rock a Job Interview

I know there’s already a million blog posts on the web regarding what to do and not to do in job interviews, but I figured, what would one million and one hurt? So here are some tips I have found helpful at rocking a job interview.

Always be positive. Especially when being asked about why you are leaving your current company, always give a positive answer regardless of what the truth is. Never bash a former employer. Don’t say your employer was unfair or corrupt or uncaring. Don’t say you got sick of the work that you did, even if it is a different type of work. You never know the person interviewing you and what their personal history is. For example, if you say, “I just really got tired of watching children and wanted to switch out of the childcare field”, they might start considering whether the daycare workers at their own child’s daycare actually enjoy their job or whether they dislike the work they do. Remember that people tend to feel about you the way you make them feel about themselves. You never know whose toes you might be stepping on if you allow any sort of negativity to enter your narrative. Always keep it positive. “I am looking for a new challenge” is one that always works.

Learn enough about the company to give some facts about it. You should know what they do and a little about their history. You should be able to explain how your experience, skills, and talents fit the role for which the company is hiring. Remember, it’s not about what they can do for you (“These hours work great for my my schedule”) but instead what you can do for them (“I have 5 years of experience in the position you’re advertising and have certifications proving I have the technical knowledge required for the job”).

If you’ve never done the job for which you’re interviewing, consider roles and responsibilities you’ve held in other jobs that are similar. Connect the dots for the interviewer so they see that you are in fact capable of handling the job duties. Express your passion to expand your knowledge and broaden your expertise in a certain field.

Ask questions. Employers want you to ask questions. That lets them know you’re interested in the position and that you’ll be a good fit. Ask more about what the position entails, what a typical work day looks like, what the company culture is like, and, if you’re interested, how easy it is to move up in the company. Employers like hearing that candidates are interested in moving up because that lets them know you’re looking to stay somewhere for a while instead of jumping ship in six months.

Look confident and capable. Big, broad smiles. Good posture — shoulders back, back straight. Strong handshake (assuming it’s an in-person interview and it’s not the Covid Era). Build rapport with the interviewer. Most communication happens through body language, not words, and most people leave an impression of themselves within seconds of meeting a stranger. You want the interviewer to have a good feeling when they think about you. This unconscious bias can help you score the job, or, alternatively, lose the opportunity.

Answer all questions thoroughly and with detail. Many employers use the STAR method, which stands for situation, task, action, and result. Describe the situation, describe what you had to achieve, describe what you did to achieve it, and describe the end result. Be creative and twist truth if need be in order to answer the question. The worst thing you can say is “That didn’t apply in my last job” or “I’ve never had a situation like that.”

These are some tips that I have found help me stand out from the crowd when interviewing for a job. I hope they help you. Please share any tips that you have found beneficial when job-hunting.

Why I Don’t Want a Career/Salaried Position

Many Americans dream of being able to climb the corporate ladder and eventually make it to the top of the “pecking order” in their place of work. They dream of having power, authority, and a lot of money. However, I personally have no desire to have a career. Of course, considering I’m not independently wealthy, I am required to work in order to meet my needs. However, building a career is another thing entirely.

I’m not competitive. Careers typically require competition with others for credit, promotions, and raises. I don’t want to have to step on anybody else or have anybody step on me for money.

I don’t want to invest that much of myself into a job. I want to work to live, not live to work. I don’t want my job to be the focal point of my life. I don’t want my identity to be intertwined with what I do for a living. I want my work to make my life possible. Of course, this doesn’t mean I don’t want my work to matter or to be enjoyable.

I want to be paid for all my time. Most careers require you to be salaried (except for independent contracting, which comes with its own downsides). I don’t want my employer to own me to the extent they feel comfortable calling on me any day of the week, any hour of the day. If I put in more than my 40 hours, I want to be paid time-and-a-half for it. There are a lot of people in salaried positions who seem to make a high salary until you realize they routinely work 60+ hours a week.

I don’t want to manage others. Not all, but many, career positions require supervision of others. I don’t want to have to answer for anybody other than myself.

Does anybody reading feel the same way I do about having a career or have any of their own thoughts to add?